Just finished our last session with the social worker. She turned out to be really great but I'm still glad its over with. She just has to write her report and then we are off to find agencies and see if we can get a match somewhere. When we first started with this I wasn't really sure if I was ready buy now I am so confident (probably over confident). I feel like we are ready to start our family and accept whatever challenges come along with it.
It makes me so happy to see Wendy happy .......
Wednesday, September 29, 2004
Sunday, September 26, 2004
Our Profile
The next step for us was the create a profile to describe ourselves. This is our first attempt and it is still a work in progress. We are not really sure what to put into one of these things?
Steve & Wendy
Hello! Wow ….. what a decision for you to make ….. possibly the greatest decision you will ever make in your life! We can’t imagine how conflicted this decision would be for you but wish you the very best in your journey to find the best life for your child and hope that our profile gives you insight into us.
About us
We met in our first year of university. Steve was the guy upstairs with the loud stereo and I was the studious girl on the second floor. Although friends through university, we didn’t start dating until our 4th year. We knew within months of dating that we were meant to be together and plunged into marriage in 1994, only 4 months after graduation! We tend to laugh often and just enjoy our time together.
Steve speaks about Wendy
Wendy is the apple of my eye. I feel like we are a perfect match. She has a wonderful laugh and smile and truly lives life to its fullest despite its challenges. She is fun to be around and is instantly liked by everyone she meets. She enriches my life and the lives of many others every day.
Wendy is a teacher, not by training, but by her very nature. She has a love of science and the outdoors. She seems to notice the little things like an unusual flower, rock or animal that I would have just walked by –or more likely over- before I met her. She comes from a large family and we both enjoy spending time with them. She is eternally optimistic and always seems to be able to find some good in every person and every situation.
Wendy likes to cook, especially for a large group during the holidays
Wendy speaks about Steve
Steve is a very loving, romantic mathematical genius! Seriously, I really don’t know anyone who can do math like Steve! Steve’s a traffic engineer and relishes playing in traffic and trying to solve ridiculous problems like gridlock! The interesting twist is he’s not geeky or like an engineer. He is well liked at work and is truly a nice person, a guy who you can talk to without feeling belittled. He cherishes his family and enjoys playing with all of his 11 nephews and nieces. Children are drawn to him, either to read a book, play a game or just hang out. I think it’s mostly to with his quiet patience and that they sense his respect and love of their individual personalities. Steve enjoys the outdoors, although he’s a big fan of flushing toilets and showers. Understandably, he loves his Grandparent’s cottage and fishing at the "Lake’. He enjoys all types of music and is known to pick up the guitar and play a tune once and while.
Our interests as a couple
You would think that after moving over 32 times in university, we would be sick of travelling! Although, we love having a home base, we enjoy seeing the world and would relish to share these opportunities with our children. We also like playing tennis, curling, hiking and just about any outdoors activity. But I think, our favourite times together are unwinding on the couch after a day at work to discuss and laugh at our work and day’s activities.
Our Families
We are fortunate to have a very large circle of family to share our love and joy of becoming parents. Everyone was overjoyed with our ‘announcement’ of pursuing adoption. Although they may not be familiar with the details of our struggle with IVF, they know that this journey is extremely important to us and are very supportive.
Our Views on Adoption
We think that most families are formed at birth but we feel it is extra special to have our family formed this way. It makes us unique and special. For a long time, our focus was getting pregnant but have come to realize that those few months are really a small period in a lifetime with a child.
Steve & Wendy
Hello! Wow ….. what a decision for you to make ….. possibly the greatest decision you will ever make in your life! We can’t imagine how conflicted this decision would be for you but wish you the very best in your journey to find the best life for your child and hope that our profile gives you insight into us.
About us
We met in our first year of university. Steve was the guy upstairs with the loud stereo and I was the studious girl on the second floor. Although friends through university, we didn’t start dating until our 4th year. We knew within months of dating that we were meant to be together and plunged into marriage in 1994, only 4 months after graduation! We tend to laugh often and just enjoy our time together.
Steve speaks about Wendy
Wendy is the apple of my eye. I feel like we are a perfect match. She has a wonderful laugh and smile and truly lives life to its fullest despite its challenges. She is fun to be around and is instantly liked by everyone she meets. She enriches my life and the lives of many others every day.
Wendy is a teacher, not by training, but by her very nature. She has a love of science and the outdoors. She seems to notice the little things like an unusual flower, rock or animal that I would have just walked by –or more likely over- before I met her. She comes from a large family and we both enjoy spending time with them. She is eternally optimistic and always seems to be able to find some good in every person and every situation.
Wendy likes to cook, especially for a large group during the holidays
Wendy speaks about Steve
Steve is a very loving, romantic mathematical genius! Seriously, I really don’t know anyone who can do math like Steve! Steve’s a traffic engineer and relishes playing in traffic and trying to solve ridiculous problems like gridlock! The interesting twist is he’s not geeky or like an engineer. He is well liked at work and is truly a nice person, a guy who you can talk to without feeling belittled. He cherishes his family and enjoys playing with all of his 11 nephews and nieces. Children are drawn to him, either to read a book, play a game or just hang out. I think it’s mostly to with his quiet patience and that they sense his respect and love of their individual personalities. Steve enjoys the outdoors, although he’s a big fan of flushing toilets and showers. Understandably, he loves his Grandparent’s cottage and fishing at the "Lake’. He enjoys all types of music and is known to pick up the guitar and play a tune once and while.
Our interests as a couple
You would think that after moving over 32 times in university, we would be sick of travelling! Although, we love having a home base, we enjoy seeing the world and would relish to share these opportunities with our children. We also like playing tennis, curling, hiking and just about any outdoors activity. But I think, our favourite times together are unwinding on the couch after a day at work to discuss and laugh at our work and day’s activities.
Our Families
We are fortunate to have a very large circle of family to share our love and joy of becoming parents. Everyone was overjoyed with our ‘announcement’ of pursuing adoption. Although they may not be familiar with the details of our struggle with IVF, they know that this journey is extremely important to us and are very supportive.
Our Views on Adoption
We think that most families are formed at birth but we feel it is extra special to have our family formed this way. It makes us unique and special. For a long time, our focus was getting pregnant but have come to realize that those few months are really a small period in a lifetime with a child.
Monday, September 20, 2004
Fingerprinting
Had to go for fingerprinting today. I understand why we have to do it but it still seems like an insult. Its amazing how "qualified" you have to be to adopt. Meanwhile, so many people are out there having children that just don't seem equipped to handle it.
Had our third session with our social worker that is doing our homestudy. One more session to go and then we are done. Have to sit there and bare my soul. Somone who had a father that beat them everyday for 18 years has no problem going out and impregnating half the town. Meanwhile I'm sitting here having to explain that I can still be a good parent even though my mother spanked me once when I was 4. BUT I'M NOT BITTER.
Looking forward to finishing the homestudy and looking for a match :)
Had our third session with our social worker that is doing our homestudy. One more session to go and then we are done. Have to sit there and bare my soul. Somone who had a father that beat them everyday for 18 years has no problem going out and impregnating half the town. Meanwhile I'm sitting here having to explain that I can still be a good parent even though my mother spanked me once when I was 4. BUT I'M NOT BITTER.
Looking forward to finishing the homestudy and looking for a match :)
Saturday, September 18, 2004
Adoption - So Far
We are just starting on this journey. My wife and I really don't know what to expect. After many years of trying the good old fashion way we decided that something musy be "wrong". We started with doctors and specialist poking and proding and test after test. Eventually we got fed up with the fertility clinics and realized that we didn't need to conceive naturally to create a family.
We went to our first adoption seminar in June of 2004. We were really nervous at first and not sure what we were getting ourselves into. The seminar was great and we met alot of couples just like ourselves. We left the seminar feeling really positive about moving forward.
The next step was to start our home study. So far we have had two sessions with our councillor and it is going great. They ask alot of really weird questions but so far its not too bad. We are not really sure what lies ahead.
We went to our first adoption seminar in June of 2004. We were really nervous at first and not sure what we were getting ourselves into. The seminar was great and we met alot of couples just like ourselves. We left the seminar feeling really positive about moving forward.
The next step was to start our home study. So far we have had two sessions with our councillor and it is going great. They ask alot of really weird questions but so far its not too bad. We are not really sure what lies ahead.
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